Your Buddy Regularly Touches You or Hits You Non-Consensually
Non-consensual intimate contact is the most typical types of refusing to respect boundaries within a relationship. I’ve pointed out that this is specially typical in a few homosexual and/or queer communities where the lines between relationship and intimate relationships can be quite blurry.
I experienced a friend whom really licked me personally (!) non-consensually, on a daily basis. Him to stop, he told me to “lighten up” and that he did this with “all his best friends”(!!) when I asked.
Nevertheless, intimate harassment and attack within friendships is very typical across communities. Rape statistics show that most intimate assaults really happen between acquaintances.
Inside an abusive relationship context, sexual harassment and attack tend to be disguised as “banter,”“play,” or “joking around.” Often, we explain this away, saying “he’s similar to that,” “they don’t mean anything because of it,” or “she always gets handsy whenever she’s drunk.”